Monday, July 12, 2010

Suicide Is Painless?

Hello all,

It's me again with another topic to get off my chest.  As I was recently to the second funeral in 5 years of someone who committed suicide, I felt it was now time to discuss it.  People have to realize that no matter how bad life has gotten for them, suicide is not a solution.

Now many of you are saying, but people suffer from clinical depression and experience thoughts of suicide often.  This is true, as there is a chemical imbalance in their brains that cause these thoughts to form.  Unfortunately, as with most mental illness, chemical imbalances can not be countered with rationalism.  It can only be medicated and cared for.  I'm, also, not talking about the terminally ill, as they are at the end of their life cycle and should be allowed to go in peace, without suffering, if they wish. 

No, I'm talking about the relatively sane majority of us that encounter adversity in our lives and get so bogged down in self pity that we wonder "what's the point in continuing?"  I know this, as I have suffered adversity recently, and have asked myself that same question.  However, we do have to realize that these are temporary and that we are going to have very bad times in our lives as well a very good times.  Life is how we make it, good or bad.  We can decide to suck it up, have patience, and wait for the next wave of good that is coming our way; or we can say To hell with this and cut out life existence without regard to future opportunities at happiness.

I have found that life, and all existence for that matter, seem to be about balance.  If you have great success, you must also deal with great failure.  happiness-sadness, good-bad, etc.  The same can be said for the opposite, ie bad to good et. al.  Therefore, as you encounter each, nature will swing the pendulum to the other and then back again.  It's all cyclical.  Life can not be so bad that you have to end it all.  You just have to have the strength and will to pull yourself out of your emotional trench and rebuild your life.  It will get better, and it will get bad again, but then it will get better again, and so on.  There will always be circumstances outside your control that will probably hurt you.  However, you've got to realize that there's no sense worrying about what you can't control.  You have to focus on yourself and what will make you happiest in this life.

Now I know many of you probably think I'm being hypocritical as I believe that Darwin's "Survival of the Fittest" should be reintroduced to society.  I assure you that I'm not.  I believe there is a great difference between intentionally taking your own life and just being too stupid to live.  Suicide is never about stupidity.  It's about overpowering emotions of low self esteem.  What we all have to do is recognize is that, yes, we feel low now, but there's nowhere to go but up.  Suicide is never a solution.  It just leaves a hole in the rest of the world.